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The Path Back to Relationship is Paved with Words

    Words can be cheap, for sure. But words spoken from the heart can also be unbelievably powerful, either to destroy relationships or to build them back up.  Remember this little ditty from your childhood? Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me. Our parents and teachers told us … Continue reading “The Path Back to Relationship is Paved with Words”

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Encouragement for a New Normal

    Real encouragement is much more than mere positivity. It is grounded in what is real. Sometimes that means helping us embrace what “good” looks like in a new normal. There are life events and circumstances that change our entire trajectory. Whatever our direction and goals were before, suddenly they must necessarily change. It … Continue reading “Encouragement for a New Normal”

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Using Our Voice for Good

    You can use your voice to point out the ignorance and foolishness of the person on the other side of the issue, or you can use your voice to build healthy, productive relationships to actually resolve the issue. But you cannot do both. I suppose it is misplaced hope on our part. Or … Continue reading “Using Our Voice for Good”

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A Cliffhanger: Where We Learn to Reconcile

    One of the most important skills we can demonstrate to the children in our lives is how to reconcile in a way that actually transforms a relationship. The number one indicator of how I am most likely to respond to conflict in my adult life is how I saw conflict responded to by … Continue reading “A Cliffhanger: Where We Learn to Reconcile”

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Seek Relationships that Speak Truth into You

    In our current culture, people who speak the truth to us are hard to find. When you have an opportunity to deepen a relationship with a truth-teller in your life, take it! What we say to participants in One Another Project is, choose those relationships in your life that are important to you … Continue reading “Seek Relationships that Speak Truth into You”

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Being the Voice of Peace

    In a divided culture of “us versus them”, being the friend who encourages reason and peace may be risky, but the rewards are enormous. I’m pretty confident that your Facebook feed of all your friends’ posts and comments doesn’t look all that different from mine. Aside from the occasional dog/cat video, much of … Continue reading “Being the Voice of Peace”

Friends Bearing Gifts

    When it comes to quality of the friends and family in your life, you have more control than you might think. Have you ever received a gift from someone and you just knew deep down that it was not to be trusted? Maybe it was a friend or family member who just wanted … Continue reading “Friends Bearing Gifts”

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The Puzzle of “Who Am I?”

    While the puzzle of “who am I?” is yours to piece together, don’t be fooled by friends, family, tribes or even your own feelings. There is a truer source for your identity than any of those. His father told him he was a shepherd. And that had certainly become his reality…one in which … Continue reading “The Puzzle of “Who Am I?””

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Who Will Teach Them to Listen Well?

    We’ve taught the next generation to be advocates for important causes, but who will teach them to listen well? The last several days’ news of young people around the country advocating for different gun laws makes me proud, and maybe a little sad. Social media has taught them persuasive argument, a critical skill … Continue reading “Who Will Teach Them to Listen Well?”

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Where is My Hope? Let Me Be Clear

    Can’t we be good citizens without placing all our hope in political solutions? If you are my friend, won’t you let me be clear about where my hope really is? From time to time, we all get sucked into conversations of which we would rather not be a part. Maybe it is about … Continue reading “Where is My Hope? Let Me Be Clear”